Three Sides of Love

There are THREE sides to everything in life.
Three sides to every argument, to every story, to every coin… everything really.

Well, I have learnt that there are also three sides to LOVE – what you think love is, what your partner thinks loves is and the TRUTH about what love really is.
Well, I don’t know you or your partner but I do know love and the truth about love and that’s what I am going to discuss with you today.

Love is a tricky thing. It is a strong feeling of emotions that can sometimes be the most beautiful thing in the world but, at the same time, it can be the most horrid thing ever known to mankind.

How is it that one thing can evoke so many opposite feelings?
Not even I can answer that question. But, one thing I can say – THAT is what makes love so beautiful. Love is the one thing that encompasses both darkness and light; it is also the closest thing to perfection any human will know.

So, what are the three sides of love?

LIGHT
This is the happy kind of love. The kind that breathes new life, the beginning of something beautiful, the kind you read about in fairy tales and stories, what you see in movies and watch unfold on reality tv, the kind that ends in happily ever after.

DARK
This is the sad kind of love. The kind that causes pain in every fibre of your being, that ends something beautiful, that will never amount to anything more than what it currently is, the kind no one likes to talk about, the wedging apart of two people who love each other the most.

THE TRUTH
One needs to understand the difference between love and lust.
Love is never enough to keep two people together.
There is no love without compromise because there isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another; they simply accept them.
Love is irrational and while it may seem to work for some time, the rational and real world realities will catch up with you eventually.
Because of all those intense feelings that comes with love it will results in partners making poor choices.
Everyone is carrying some baggage – If you can’t work through the baggage, sooner or later it will start to unpack itself and all hell will break loose.
Love scars cut deep and they are not easily forgotten
Sometimes you have to accept that you have to let go and allow the two of you to find others to love.
Given the right timing and two people willing to do the work – love can be the most painfully beautiful thing in the world.

MY ADVICE?
There is no guarantees in life or in love so I cannot protect you from the dark side or the truth even though I wish I could.
No one and no relationship is perfect.
Take your head out the clouds, ignore what you see on tv and understand that love takes time, patience and commitment.
Don’t forget to be true and honest to yourself, love yourself and stop trying to fit into the mould that society creates – only you can be the best YOU.
Don’t forget to continue to share your heart and you love with the world even though its been broken a few times before.

-LizzieJ